Marriage is often described as the union of two people deeply in love, two hearts choosing each other and committing to a shared future.

For many, it begins with excitement, butterflies and what we like to call “love at first sight.”

We are drawn to someone we believe we cannot live without, and eventually, we decide to settle down.

But recent events both in Ghana and abroad are forcing many to pause and ask difficult questions.

What happened to the love that once seemed so pure?

How does a relationship that began with affection and promise end in violence?

How does a man raise his hand or a weapon against a woman he once claimed to adore?

How does a woman harm the man she once professed to love?

These troubling realities are shaking our understanding of what love truly means.

Perhaps, in our excitement and emotional connection, we sometimes overlook the deeper foundations required for a lasting marriage.

We may become so overwhelmed by passion that we fail to examine character, temperament, emotional maturity and values.

Yet these are the very qualities that determine whether someone can be a good husband or a good wife.

Many people today are quietly asking: Does true love still exist, or have we mistaken lust and infatuation for love?

When women share stories of marital struggles — and men do too — the question often lingers: Where did the love go?

The increasing reports of partners physically harming or even killing each other serve as a painful warning.

Love should never be violent.

It should not be controlling, abusive or destructive.

These tragic incidents remind us that saying “I do” must never be rushed or based solely on feelings.

Choosing a life partner requires more than emotions.

It demands careful observation, honest conversations and a clear assessment of compatibility.

Character matters.

Temperament matters.

Emotional stability matters.

For many believers, faith also plays a crucial role.

Beyond personal judgment and compatibility checks, seeking divine guidance in prayer can bring clarity and peace.

Asking God for direction before committing to marriage is not a sign of weakness; it is a recognition that marriage is a serious, lifelong covenant.

True love is still possible.

It is still sweet. But it flourishes only when two people who are compatible, respectful and emotionally healthy come together.

Love should make you feel safe, valued and cherished — not afraid.

Before settling down, both women and men must think deeply and choose wisely.

Open your eyes.

Examine the signs.

Seek counsel.

Pray.

When the right choice is made, marriage can indeed be beautiful, peaceful and fulfilling.